One of the most common questions I get from readers who are frustrated with the whole dating scene is, “Other than bars or the internet, how the hell do you meet people these days?!?” My answer? Stop stressing about meeting someone and stop “looking”; you meet potential dates when you least expect it in the least likely places.
Don’t buy it? Well check this out. A while back I went to the dentist for a cleaning, and as luck would have it, my hygienist was pretty smokin’. We began flirting with each other right from Jump Street. While she was grinding on my teeth, I was strategizing how to make the transition from patient to potential date. After all, she did already have her hand in my mouth which is a form of foreplay isn’t it?
But because a good opportunity didn’t really present itself, I figured I’d worry about it later and just left. But then I get a voice mail later in the day from the hygienist’s co-worker telling me that she was talking about me when I left, was wondering if I was single, and if I was interested to give her a call. Pleasantly surprised because the hard work was done for me, I called back.
To make a long story short, the hygienist and I started dating, and one night we talked about how funny it was how we met, etc. But after thinking about it some more, I realized she learned a lot about me from seeing my patient chart, which in the medical world, is pretty unethical, and in some cases when you release patient information to others, it’s illegal. Now I didn’t have anything to hide in my chart, and its actually kinda flattering that she was interested enough about me to look, but what if I was some dude who WOULD get pissed off at someone checking out my chart to get a date?
So exactly where does your physical attraction to someone trump ethics? Sure, anything worth having is worth a little risk, but it’s amazing that someone would be willing to risk her career because she’s interested in someone. The hygienist has a really cool boss, so he would never care if he knew she did it, but not everyone is so lucky. I personally know firemen and paramedics who have been disciplined and even fired for getting hot patients’ phone numbers from their ambulance reports and contacting them afterward. I know cops who saw a hot chick on the road and ran their license plates to find out about them. And don’t even get me started on lawyers who date their clients. Kinda gives new meaning to being screwed by your lawyer, doesn’t it?
Certainly some people who do the chart-peeking thing because they don’t know it’s wrong, but the rest probably do it because they feel it’s worth the risk, especially if you feel chemistry or a connection with the person. I’m not condoning it, of course; let your conscience be your guide. But take a little risk and you might land yourself a hot hygienist too. It gives a whole new meaning to “gettin’ a little oral” doesn’t it?
You can hear more on the whole ethical vs. physical debate on my “Fireman & the Shrink” podcast by clicking here.
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